Sorry if I turn anyone off by this, but if you've been in my position and felt used, felt like people didn't care about you but more were just your friend to use you, then you'd probably understand more where I'm coming from; it's hurtful, not even gonna lie.
Those that have known me a while... even if it's just a short while; you know that I strongly dislike people self-promoting themselves on my Facebook. I can't regulate Facebook like I can with this blogger thingy (like putting the comments on approval only) so i often wake up to several links that i have to delete on my Facebook. it irks me. it's disrespectful.
ever since i began YouTube or anything nail-related, i have NEVER self-promoted myself, ever. i have never asked for shout-outs, posted my links on walls, asked people to subscribe... that's just not my style. the fact that i have never done this, makes it even more irritating when people use me to do it.
i believe that if someone likes you, they will subscribe. i believe that if you are a genuinely good nail-artist, or remotely entertaining, people will be interested over time. there is no need to solicit. i HATE solicitation. i worked at target and i was supposed to ask the ''guests'' if they wanted to apply for a target card. i couldn't even bring myself to do this.
i think in doing that, you get people that come along that aren't truly appreciative of your friendship/work/personality/art and it's a waste. the only way to grow an established blog or channel or whatever, is to let people make that decision on their own, don't press them to do so.
I've never done this, and i'm actively against it.
as a result, I've decided to deactivate my Facebook ''page'' PlasmaSpeedo. I have about 1400 ''likes'' on there, and i understand Facebook is convenient for people to stay in contact and follow long with, but it's becoming more of an annoyance and a burden by having to constantly regulate and ask people to be respectful. I don't want to be used. I hate feeling used. I'm not a billboard. I have people following that page because they chose to, not because i forced it down their throat. shameless self-promoters continue to abuse my page, and disrespect me, use me and make me feel like all they care about is getting some views of their own. they often don't even act like they care what i'm posting, leave a comment relating to my posts or anything- they just link their blog. lolllll really? GTFO for real, that is so pitiful IMO and ya won't last long with a ''gain 'em quick, herd 'em in like cows'' approach. every single person following your channel or page or blog is a PERSON. they deserve to be respected as people, they deserve to make their OWN decisions as to what they want to follow. so eff you and your forceful solicitation and self-promoting. i want no part of it.
a lot of you probably wonder what the heck i'm talking about, but it's mostly because i'm quick-on-the-mouse and when i'm alerted that there's a comment on my FB, i immediately check it, see that it's a link, and delete it. i often catch them within minutes. this regulating is tiresome to me. it's petty. i just feel like no one should use me or benefit from posting their stinking blogs on someone's page that never did the shameless self-promoing themselves. i refuse to let people ''use'' my friends to solicit to, just because I've established a decent number of interested people. i refuse to let them be slammed with ads or promos. they are not there to read that crap.
so because i will be away and not able to regulate as closely, i find it easier to just delete the FB and relocate all the pictures n stuff here :) yeah i have 1400 ''likes'' and some people wouldn't dare delete a page that has grown so much; but this shows that it's not a ''numbers'' game to me. and for you people with your own pages, it shouldn't be a ''numbers'' game to you. i'd rather have quality over quantity and i truly believe that if anyone is interested in following what i'm up to, they will check plasmaspeedo.com where my posts can sleep safely, without any disrespectful self-promoters. i want people that are interested in my nail photos or vlogs or blogs to be able to come and enjoy themselves and not feel like they are being ''sold'' someone else's things.
so bless all of you that have been respectful, bless you that have not.. just understand it's nothing personal, it's just the way i believe it should be approached. if you see nothing wrong with self-promoting, by all means, go ahead and do it. but you won't be able to USE ME for that anymore :)
if you post a wonderful comment but sneak in a link to a blog of your own, your wonderful comment won't be published. homie don't play that, i'm onto you, i smell the shit you're steppin' in, and you won't succeed in that here. lol lol
Speak your mind without apology! <3 you, missy.ReplyDelete
I was just checking to see if you can comment without being logged in, since I don't even have an account. :) Hope it works.ReplyDelete
I'm so glad you tested this, thank you! I think it works, yee!!!!Delete
omg, HI SASHA I MISS YOU!!!!!
I love you, Andrea.. even though i never met you in person but i know you for 3 years now via YT.ReplyDelete
you are an amazing girl.
YOU are my long time friend for life, we go way back baybeee, ily always <3 thank youDelete
I won't lie I will miss your posts on Facecrack lol but It's all good I can come here just the same. You have to make your self happy hon and if people can't do as you have asked of them then screw'em! I have a modest blog myself but I don't push it off on people and I don't have many followers. I would just feel funny asking/beggin people to follow me "shudders@thethought". Blogging,Vloging and doing nail tutorials are W0RK and take a lot of time and prep to do. I think you have been more then patient with everyone. I hope your feeling better. Keep being you Navy Girl.ReplyDelete
Whoo rAH!! Blue&Gold!! LOL "I think that's how it goes"
lollll i love everythingDelete
lmao @ "shudders@thethoight" you're hilarious
ty for the Navy support, you mah girl
Anytime my friend! I'm Kinda bias My Dad served in the Navy too hehe. :)Delete
I feel ya, and sorry you're having to deal with all that BS. You shouldn't have to waste your time with it, and it sucks. On a bright note, I'm diggin what you've done with the page! You got it all swanky now!ReplyDelete
thank you for understanding, and thank you for noticing! i'm trying to spruce up the joint lolllDelete
still not thoroughly happy with it, but i'm tryin' to figure it out.
hahhaha i <3 swanky
There's a song called People = Shit and I am really sorry that your feelings got hurt. I have watched you on YouTube and "liked" your FB page for awhile now. Stay strong girl!ReplyDelete
lol i will have to look up that song! thanks for being my long-time buddy :pDelete
Love the new page look!!! If people are really interested in following you they won't begrudge you for deleting your facebook account they will instead just follow your posts here! LOL! I follow your blog (and all the others I love) through bloglovin... that way I never miss a post ;-)ReplyDelete
Thank you, this comment makes me smile so big!! :)Delete
Just dropped by to say HEEEEEEYYY!!! :D Love the new digs! Check out mine... blog.yeahrightlikeiwoulddothat.lol Just kiddin'! :) C-ya 'round!ReplyDelete
Heeeyyy love your page!! Just want to see if it works cos i don't have any account... I'm not a blogger myself! And i m sorry you have such a hard time with this shit and those bad people. Not cool. I totally understand how u feel. Lots of love from switzerland !ReplyDelete
glad to see it worked, thank you for the love from Switzerland! hugs right back to you from the USA heheheDelete
I feel the same way. I'm starting to not publish comments on my blog if people put links in them. Their account name is linked to their blog anyway! On blogger you can put a little message next to your comments box. Mine says something along the lines of don't post links to your blog they will be marked as spam. :)ReplyDelete
thank you for the tidbit!Delete
Hey Andrea this is Rachel Disorda from fb. Didn't know how to leave my name lol. Just wanted to say you have a friend in me. YouReplyDelete
are a strong person to stand up from your self. I totally agree with you. Just wanted to say hi over here and I'm looking forward to your blog/ webpage. <3
HIIII RACHEL!!! thank you so much for coming over this way to play, i appreciate your friendship :):):)Delete
Hey Andrea! yeea I'm digging this, I already added you to my faves ;) I was never really into the whole blogs but YOU are what bring me here, and that's EXACTLY why I liked your facebook page and thats exactly why I will come here instead. Good luck in your future hunnie, hope to see you gracing us with your beautiful prescence soon (Kerry Emerson from Facebook =) )ReplyDelete
keeerrryyyyy <3 my love!! i was never into blogs either! i was so nervous/sad/hesitant to start one because i was never good about following them myself. i would always visit scrangie.com bc i would type her addy into the browser, would never follow.. don't understand blog rolls or anything ilke that, never check my email so email alerts are a no-go. i figured *hoped* it would be easy enough to remember PlasmaSpeedo so to just add the www and .com lol, i hoped would still allow people to track me down easily enough. i kind of like it, growing to like it more anyway, it's like my own little corner that i can put anything on, navy, nails, randomness. i'm so glad that you decided to come visit and hope you do so more often. i fancy you!Delete
Hey Andrea :) Jazz from facebook, you made me a few private vids helping me decide whether or no to start a youtube (haven't done it yet.. still.. too chicken lol) I miss seeing your updates on facebook.. I was just thinking to myself, I haven't seen any of your posts for a while and then BLAM, gone! :( I was thinking you didn't like me :( And I hope that I haven't done anything to upset you! I'll follow you and care where ever you go, and I wish you all the best in your life and everything else! I love hearing about your adventures!ReplyDelete
Lots of nail polish love,
i know it's you honey child, you don't' need to explain who you are, how can i forget? you're only the most stunning blonde from Oz i've ever seen.Delete
hurry up n make that youtube, no reason to be afraid, start with an outfit of the day!
i am sad that you thought you could have ever done anything to upset me, no way jose, i just deactivated in general to keep off of there and stay focused. i have a lot of people confused tho, and i feel bad :( but i left the status up for a whole 24 hours lol. i guess that wasn't quite long enough
anyhoo glad to see you here and hope to keep in touch more and more and more! <3
By the way, only added my personal youtube in the info about me so you'd know who I was! I promise!!! :-SReplyDelete
You're website looks great!!ReplyDelete
I'll miss you on FB...but I will now bookmark your website so I can follow you here! I love watching your videos, and reading your posts. It makes my day brighter for some reason... hmmm... anyway glad to know we still have a safe place to listen and learn from you!!
Rebecca (Miz Krull)
yayy thank you! :):) i look forward to hearing from you mucho heheheDelete
So glad someone else doen't like it. Some of the others I follow on fb are now getting irritated enough to start saying something. But that also happens when you do a lot of giveaways.ReplyDelete
Anyways, what I really wanted to say to you: I am so glad I found you! I was on youtube looking up something and as I'm watching you trying to figure out how I know you. Still not sure, doesn't matter. I love your stuff. Your art, attitude, personality, etc. So I was glad you were on there, found you on fb and saw you were closing it. :( But then I got nosy and saw a post about here. So, I'm really excited I have now joined you where you can't leave. Hehe And I'm also happy to see, with a quick look, that it looks like you are compiling your things on here. And in an organized fashion.
The only thing I have yet to figure out is plate RA - 107. I played with it for almost 20 min the other day and got so mad I wanted to throw it. So I cleaned it off and walked away. :) I have no idea why the images wont come up. Then again, I'm trying to use wnw that ppl rave about. I saw your vid on yt hoping others had problems, you did 3 on that plate with no real problems. At least my out look is better for the next go round. I was really hoping I wasn't going to have to order Konad polish, but it looked like that was what you were using.
Anyways, glad to have come across you. Love how you showed me where to go. Now I'm sad you're leaving. I do hope it goes well for you. So glad to see you going after what you want. It might be scary and a lot of exciting, but you seem to have a lot of gumption and I'm sure you'll do great. But hope to see you on here again. You have yet another follower for as long as you keep with it.
a fail-proof go-to almost always is a pure metallic like that cheap Pure Ice from walmart, silver mercedes. not a shimmery metallic, but a true metallic. if you can't stamp with that then i would call the plate a dud lolDelete
metallics of any brand, as there is no one single brand that works perfectly, always. i even have probs with special konad princess polishes at times. but i find me a silver metallic? it's onnnnn buddyyy
thank you for your kind words and best of luck to you in urstamping endeavors hehehee
Hey Andrea, Love the new blog page. Question are you closing down both FB accounts or just your Plasma Speedo page? Because Andrea Jo is MIA on my FB as well. I only ask because I was replying to personal message to you, but you seem to have disappeared.ReplyDelete
Keep up the good work on the blog
i left a post up for 24 hours about how i deactivated before boot camp to give me time here with family to concentrate, as FB was too distracting. i got several messages a day and was always trying to keep up with every single person's timeline. it was consuming me and i couldn't find a healthy balance so i just deactivated. having much more time with family and focusing on home life is so nice. i'm so much more productive without it, so i might might leave it disabled forever, still haven't decided as my life in the navy is completely unknown to me.. if i'll have time, etc. i go into school right after boot camp to learn my rate so i might just stay off everything to study, might not have the means to keep in touch online, not sure.Delete
sorry you missed my post, several people must have. i figured everyone checked fb daily lol *shrugs* i should have left it up longer. i am tempted to log back on and reactivate just to leave a message up for the entire time i'm at boot camp because it seems like so many people thought i deleted them. *siiiiigh*
ok anyhoo i'm terribly sorry we missed the chance to connect, and i will log on to that FB some time before i go to boot and see .. what's up.
ok hope i didn't inconvenience you or worry you, i miss you! hope i haven't' troubled you, oi!
No don't apologise, that is all completely understandable. I could only imagine how many messages you would have gotten a day. I understand how much FB can consume your day, and how much you actually get done when you are not on it. Boot camp is not far away, you must be getting excited/nervous. Good luck with it, i look forward to reading your updates on here when you get a chance to jump back online.Delete
I hope this finally gets to u, HIIIII SAIIINIIIIII !!!!!!!ReplyDelete
this confuses me more than you even knowDelete
wait wait wait... smaro?Delete
Hi! I miss your posts. It's sad that you felt you needed to shut down your facebook page, when all you needed to do was going into your settings and check the spot that makes it so only you can post to your page. Your fans would be able to make comments on your posts, but no one would be able to spam your page with self promotion.ReplyDelete
Here's to hoping you come back some day...
actually no... lolDelete
they would spam in the comment section, which cannot be monitored. ;)